Our minds are designed to focus on hurts. We can’t help it. Within that limitation, however, we have the power over which hurts we see.
When I focus on my hurts and you on yours, we live in our hurts.
When I focus on your hurts and you on mine, with an intention to heal, we forget, at least for a few moments that we are hurting.
May be that is the reason we hurt, so we can learn that the most effective way to heal the self is to heal others.
Focus on healing others’ hurts to heal yours.